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April 6, 2014 - 1:11pm

Teen who didn't come home on time gets cell phone taken away

posted by Billie Owens in batavia.

A 15-year-old called dispatch and asked that an officer respond to her home in the city where she is being punished and she is not happy about it. She stayed out past curfew and her mother confiscated her cell phone as a result. She thinks this is unreasonable parenting.

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Sounds like perfect parenting to me. :)

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I really wish I could be there for the conversation between that police officer and the teen. I'm sure it didn't go the way she expected.

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HURRAY FOR THE PARENTS-

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I'm hopeful the police backed up the parents position instead of claiming the phone was the child's property.

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I hope they take her phone away indefinitely. What is wrong with her, wasting the time of the policeman like that? Man, kids these days. Back in my day.......

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Time for the good old wood shed!!!!!!!!

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Live in the city and my son called the police on me when I wouldn't let him play video games on school nights. The police told me basically to compromise with him.

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Compromise this !!! The parents rules are law!!! You abide by them or pay the consequences!!!! When I was young she would have gotten more than the phone taken away !!! Kids today are brittle, they think they should get everything they want and do what they want, they have a rude awakening awaiting them down the road !!! The game of life does not play by those rules !!!!!

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I'd take her phone, her PlayStation, the TV in her room, and any other materialistic BS that "she has". This is the entitlement generation and they will have a rude awakening one day!!!

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The sad part of this whole situation is that society has taken the belt out of parents hands and put 911 in the childs hand. This child is doing only what she has been schooled to do. Kids are running the households these days and the parents are at the mercy of it. This kid needs a good old fashioned ass beating, BUT WAIT....cant do that or mom and dad are going byebye....its an absolute joke!!!!...take a look around at your friends and other families and you will see what I mean.

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Not even mentioning the fact of the embarrasment she has caused her parents by having the police at her home so the neighbors can have something to gossip about!

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oh honey whoever you are.....if you only knew what a wonderful mother you have

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Jeff gets best comment week award.

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"Spare the rod.....spoil the child." Remember that one?

Message to the young lady......sweetheart.....I guarantee, as sure as I'm sitting here,

that someday....somewhere....sometime in your life, you will understand, exactly why

your mother did what she did. To coin another old adage......"when the shoe is on

the other foot"

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Ridiculous, give the brat a rotary phone.

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We live in an age of entitlements. This includes people who have no income and live off the work and taxes of others to this case where this young girl thinks she is entitled to a cell phone. This case brings to mind the recent story of the teenage girl who sued her parents for college tuition. She eventually lost her case in court, rightfully so, but it illustrates how far this mind set has gotten in this materialistic Society.

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I have not commented on anything in quite some time but when I see ignorance in it's raw form on a subject such as disiplining children I cannot bite my tongue. So for the idiots to better understand,, I will put this into terms you may be able to comprehend...BEATING CHILDREN IS WRONG. Learn how to disipline without pain. Exactly how the mother in this instance has done. Bravo ..Mom... Well done....you get it!

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Wow! This takes balls and a big set of brass ones.

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Raymond, this child really hasn't shown any kind of brass balls with this action. Actually she has shown ignorance and expectation of entitlement as well as no respect for her parents, selfishness and attitude.

None of which are very commendable personality traits to carry into adulthood.

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For anyone to talk of the wood shed or an ass beating, remember we're talking about a 15 year old girl here. Yes, a full grown man could do that to his daughter... but that's no MAN, as far as I'm concerned. Even the thought of that makes me sick. Just because someone is bigger and more powerful, that's not the answer. It's a gross thought, actually.

My mother always told us that she never spanked us after we were out of diapers, that by then we had learned what no meant.

Taking away the cell phone was the parent's punishment for something we know nothing about. Coming up with another one for calling the police about it is probably the dilemma the parent is trying to figure out right now. A 15 year old is certainly old enough to understand why that action was wrong. I like the community service suggestion, but getting the girl to follow up on that will be tough.

The time to teach your child values, responsibility, and right from wrong, begins when they're tiny.

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Tom, I see no comparison between people who have lost their jobs through no fault of their own and the actions of a child punished for breaking a family rule.

This young lady is learning a lesson that will stay with her for a lifetime. She had a phone. In the event she had a good reason for being late, she should have used that phone to explain why. Taking away the phone, in this case, fits.

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Steve, too many parents didn't know the difference between a spanking and
child abuse, thus laws were written to protect children from parents or gaurdians
who abused their children. Some parents even used weapons.
You can't beat children, if you do, you deserve a jail cell.

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I am sorry to anyone that I offended with the "woodshed" statement. I thought that people would see it as sarcasm, the way it was meant.

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Didn't know it was sarcasm (I look for the smiley faces or winks). Personally, I wasn't offended or anything. Just the thought of a man spanking a 15 year old girl sets my stomach churning, that's all

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Oddly, the late comedian Bernie Mac could make light of spanking a teenager and it would come out funny. The "Get Your Own Switch" routine comes to mind. Other comedians noted that no one else could get away with a routine like that. He was a rare talent, whether you like that particular "talent" or not.

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So spanking a baby in diapers = good parenting but spanking a 15 year old = bad….fainting. This world is goin to hell i a hand basket I tell you.

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My Mom never did more than a swat, not a full blown spanking. And NO, I don't see the harm in that but I DO see it in spanking a 15 year old. The term used above that I take issue with, was "ass beating".

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Kyle,

Are you saying that it was a regular occurrence in your home for you to call the cops on your parents because you felt their punishment was too strict?

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Since I spent 2 months in icu with a broken jaw and collarbone @ 11 yrs old Raymond I'd say yes it was pretty common except most of the time I was unconcious so my Mother or sister would call. But thats a different situation , so why do you ask Richard. I still dont think the girl has brass balls, just no respect and an attitude of entitlement.

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It saddens me greatly to learn of the abuse you suffered Kyle at the hands of a "parent." God bless you and yours.

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Thank you Billie. Its in the past and has been dealt with. It is however a double edged sword having experienced it.

For one it developed my character at an early age, by putting a very strong desire to be NOTHING like that man. Hence my desire to avoid using my fists to solve problems. However it also made me very vocal on issues I feel strongly about, because of the years of hiding what was really going on.

In my experience, abusers tend to have one mask for the public, everyone thinks they are nice and wonderful people, even those that may have seen a glimmer of the truth beneath that mask. However at home they beat and intimidate everyone into fear and submission.

The beating I referenced earlier.... Is a case in point. My Mom and Dad went with my godparents to a luncheon. A couple of hours after they returned my mother's cigarettes were missing. I was suspected and despite my pleas of innocence I was beaten until he was exhausted. Right after my mother called the ambulance my godparents called ... they found the cigarettes in the back of their car.

Now you woulkd think, that this would merit an apology or remorse frommy father. But his only comment was I probably did something else that I deserved a beating for. As for the injuries, well that was explained away that I was "doing stunts" on my bike and fell on the driveway and did those injuries.

While discipline is a good thing. Parental abuse is something entirely different. A paddling behind a woodshed would have been a blessing compared to the punishments I got. But never forget its the intent behind it too, physical abuse however severe can and does heal, but the mental abuse, the degradation and constant verbalizing of your worthlessness as a child/spouse is what does the real damage and is the harder thing to heal.

Sorry fellow Batavians but Richards comment on brass balls just hit a little to close to a nerve, and his comment on calling the police on parents was a dead on hit of that same nerve. I didn't mean to preach but this is something that has always been discussed in hushed tones and behind closed doors. Thats what protects the abusers and enables them while increasing the hopelessness of the victims.

The truth should be dragged kicking and screaming into the light of day and discussed.

Also because my father never ever was arrested. This is the reason why while I believe that innocent til proven guilty (As Howard and I have butted heads on) Is a good ideal to strive for. Reality is that some people are just plain guilty. We here locally have seen that the justice system can and does fail as we have seen in the Jaquetta Simmons incident and trial.

Thats some of the "why" behind me and who I am. Again apologies to everyone. :)

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