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D&C: Batavia home divided over politics

By Howard B. Owens

The Democrat & Chronicle writes about The Clarks, of Batavia -- a home divided by the presidential race.

That's where they hatched the plan to bisect the exterior of their home with yellow caution tape from the tippy-top of the third story, through the flower bed across the lawn and to the sidewalk. On the right side of the tape is a blue-and-white sign showing support for Clark's preferred Presidential candidate: Republican John McCain. On the left side, Lexi and Katherine's pick: Democrat Barack Obama.

"Lexi is very interested in politics this year and as a parent when you see your child express an interest in something you try to expose them to more and more of it," said Clark, a driver for Golden State Foods in Rochester. He wants to encourage Lexi's interest in politics, just as he does Woody's interest in aerospace and Katherine's interest in art.

Who can argue with a parent encouraging his children to stretch their own wings? It's great that he respects his children's' choices on these issues.

But, what caught my eye was that his reasons for supporting McCain are rather spurious.

"My biggest worry as a parent is taxes," said Clark, who shares custody of his three children with ex-wife Patti Burey of Batavia. "And as a parent raising three children, I want to make sure the future is bright for them and make sure they are well off."

McCain's temperament, experience and demeanor make him the best pick for the White House, he said.

McCain "will bring great leadership to Washington," Clark said. And, he said, McCain's conservative credentials mean he's the one who will slash spending, cut taxes and put America back on solid footing again.

Taxes? As the debate over "Not-Joe Not-The Plumber" the past few days has made clear, Obama's tax plan clearly favors people like Mr. Clark far more than McCain's.

McCain's temperament? The man known for his fits of pique and floor stomping displays of rage?  Did you watch the third debate, Mr. Clark?

Conservative? McCain thinks the government should solve problems, not get out the way.  There's very little about McCain's world view -- such as it is -- that is conservative.  He's just another Big Government Republican, more interested in Empire and Plutocracy than caring about your kids.

Not that Obama is any better -- he's not. But those are thee pretty bad reasons to support John McCain. 

And neither man will be able to do much of what they say they'll do, not with $10 trillion in debt, Iraq sucking another $10 billion out of the Treasury each month, Bin Laden still uncaught, a financial system in apparent chaos, energy concerns and rising unemployment.  The pie-in-the-sky promises of either McCain or Obama will be forgotten by Jan. 21.

But let's end on a positive note:

Once the election is over, however, the family plans to heal their partisan divide.

"All of our arguments are all in good fun and whoever wins the election will have the full support of everyone in this house," said Mark Clark. "We're planning on putting out new signs then."

lazario Ladou

This is cute and all but my comment will be on

why would 7th graders be worried about the economy?
7th graders are not worried about the economy
maybe 7th graders hear mom and dad talking about the economy
Or maybe reporters on news broadcasts
Or teachers
Maybe they're worried about clothing, gifts and allowances
But 7th graders don't have any reason to worry
not ones not on the brink of homelessness/starvation anyways

sooooooo
makes me suspicious

Are 7th graders worried about this stuff or is it just a game

Are adults worried about this stuff
or is it really just a big game

Oct 20, 2008, 10:46pm Permalink
Timothy Paine

I too have a yard that is split down the middle. I being a Democrat and my wife a registered Conservative. I'm glad to see when parents include their children in political discussions. My kids are always involved with it at the dinner table and are offered, obviously, multiple views on all subjects.

All our friends and family get a kick out of our situation and get big laughs when they pass our house. The thing I try to explain to people is my wife and I discuss politics in our house, we don't try to impose them. My wife and I have never had an argument over politics even though they've been a daily source of topic for 16 years. My kids know that they can follow whatever path they choose with full support from both of us. They've learned that politics is a subject to debate and not to sprout hate.

I did, however, find it funny that our front yard became an interest of the Chris Lee campaign. This weekend I attended a Cubscout event with my son and spent a few hours with someone who claimed to be working for Lee's campaign. He claimed he took my picture at the Republican headquarters. Ironically, I was picking up a Lee sign for my wife. This information was given to a Republican Council member (I don't even need to say his name), who then tried to make an issue of it with my party. "How can you guys let him be on comittee when he's been seen at our headquarters and also he shook hands with Joe Gerace at the last Council meeting?" Joe Gerace is a good guy and a devoted community volunteer. I'll always shake the hand of a man who's done what he's done for Batavia. I've never let politics get in the way of being a decent and polite person. Of course this attempt at trying to cause any controversy for me was laughed at by my party and friends. However, this did cause my wife to ask me to remove the Lee sign from our yard. "Any one who would try and hurt my husband over politics is a small, small man and doesn't get my support." A picture may be worth a thousand words, but in this case it may cost a vote.

Oct 21, 2008, 3:18pm Permalink
Howard B. Owens

Tim, your last story illustrates beautifully what I think is wrong with our current party system -- too many people put party over all other considerations, be they friendship, neighborliness, or doing what is right for the people of a community, district or state.

Nothing is wrong with party membership, and even pride and identification with that party, of course, but until we can make partisanship a secondary concern, and worry less about which party wins or loses, we'll never really be able to tackle the major issues facing our region, our state or our country.

IMHO.

Oct 21, 2008, 2:52pm Permalink
Timothy Paine

In my 26 years as a registered voter (24 as a Cons. and 2 as a Dem.) I've never let politics dictate a relationship within my family (compromised of R's,D's,I's and a Libertarian). I would never let it affect a friendship. Political parties should never cloud descisions or choices. Politics is about the person, not the party. I find it hard to believe Laz's parents had no affect on his adult values or views. I feel that we are a product of what we learned growing up. I feel to think otherwise is foolish. When I was 12 the economy was a big subject in our house. We weren't poor, we just had no money. Involving your kids in finances at an early age will only prove to be extremely helpful in their future. Not teaching them is irresponsible.

Oct 21, 2008, 3:22pm Permalink
Charlie Mallow

Kids listen to what their parents talk about and are very observant. They might not agree with the conclusion but, their opinions are shaped by the information they overhear. Sometimes people are reluctant to tell a strange pollster what they are going to do but, their children live it every day and know. That’s why kids are such a good indicator of what their parents do in an upcoming election. The Scholastic poll hasn’t been wrong in 50 years.

http://www2.scholastic.com/browse/article.jsp?id=3750501

Oct 21, 2008, 3:32pm Permalink
Patrick Weissend

The first thing I learned in my first political science class was that most first time voters (especially 18 year olds) register in the same party that their parents are registered in.

My parents belonged to the same party, so I didn’t live in a “house divided.”

I remember turning 18 and bringing home my voter registration card. The first thing my father said was, “make sure you register as a xxxx.” (I’ll leave you to wonder what party it was!)

Oct 21, 2008, 4:52pm Permalink
Bea McManis

Dyed in the wool Democrat and have, at least, one child who is a dyed in the wool Conservative (where did I go wrong???) All kidding aside, each of the five were told to decide for themselves, with no pushing from Mom.
It is a personal choice and not one that should be foisted upon a newly registered voter.
What is important is to instill the belief that voting is a civic duty and not one to be taken lightly. When we vote, we exercise that civic duty and also validate our right to discuss and criticize whomever is in office and their performance.

Oct 21, 2008, 5:02pm Permalink
lazario Ladou

I find it hard to believe Laz's parents had no affect on his adult values or views. I feel that we are a product of what we learned growing up. I feel to think otherwise is foolish.

?

Children learn by imitation
problems arise when people begin believing that toddlers are exceptional because they can imitate

If the Scholastic poll thing is correct it supports my beliefs

"Not only does [voting in the] poll give kids the experience they will need to vote in the future, but it allows them to have input on who should be the next President of the United States," she said. "It gives kids a voice"

writing a name on a piece of paper is voter experience?
A voice? Whose is it again?

What I'm saying is that it's -7th graders feigned preoccupation with .. is not real
Racism is not REAL
It's a game people play
If grown people play racism I'm inclined to believe grown people play politics

racism does not exist unless the racist never outgrows what they've been taught

It's at least 85% the same game only different words and a suit

Oct 22, 2008, 1:22am Permalink
lazario Ladou

I find it hard to believe Laz's parents had no affect on his adult values or views. I feel that we are a product of what we learned growing up. I feel to think otherwise is foolish.

I said nothing of the sort
I pretty much said this myself -regarding the "product of what we see/hear/learn etc

The kid reporter who says it's valuable experience or whatever seems to be forgeting the most important aspect of voting
filling in a name doesn't mean anything
writing down what your mom and dad tell you to is not "experience" regardless of whether you know why they ell you to choosewhomever they tell you to choose

The kids -those "worrying"
are fake
Kids can ask questions about why parents worry
but to believe that they're actually the ones worrying? That's fake
Because mom stubs her toe doesn't mean you hurt

Racism is fake
Racism is not real
There is no basis for it ..or race in general for that matter
Racism is so retarded the only way it can exist is if it's a "game"
Racism does not last long if one makes his own judments of people
Racism exists because people -those that are racist- don't work hard enough to learn why such beliefs are dumb
If racism exists
I'm inclined to believe that these sorts of "games" are everywhere in our society

We know fakery is ever-present

raise your hand if you are not prejudiced
92+%

These are just games
sport has the Olympics
government has the Polimpics
citizens get participation ribbons and nothing ever actually changes ..except someones bank-account ..and not likely yours, either

Oct 23, 2008, 1:49am Permalink
Timothy Paine

Laz, only you could connect kids involved in family politics to racism. That's where the "Huh?" came from. How can a 7th grader doing a report jump to racism? I read your posting and I can see how even you connect the dots. Apparently one of your large breaks should have contained more info.

Oct 23, 2008, 2:43am Permalink
lazario Ladou

large breaks are needed because if filled those breaks in the post would be a novel and take years to write well enough
I'm more interested in just keeping the ideas out there
I'm not the only one with these kinds of ideas and maybe it is too bad I'm not interested in writing books but then again
These books are already out there

More important to keep the books afloat than to add to the crap sinking to the bottom

This does leave you the responsibility of Trying to understand by filling in the breaks yourself ..whether tonight or over years

Maybe it will take a lot of thought on your part
Maybe there wont be any payoff in the end for you
It comes down to trying to understand or not caring enough, IMO

Oct 23, 2008, 3:25am Permalink
John Roach

Tim,
For Laz to say racism is not real showed a level of stupidity not seen here before, and it says even more about him than we all thought before. He must live in a bubble. Of course racism is real and of course many times kids learn it from parents.

Of course, with Laz and his inability to write and defend an idea, who knws what he was trying to say? "HUH" is an understatement. His large page breaks are just away of trying to get the attention he graves.

Oct 23, 2008, 5:33am Permalink
lazario Ladou

I said racism exists but is not real
I said kids don't learn it from their parents many times
they learn it from parents all the time
If kids grow up and don't change all that much in terms of their treatment of others
...

I guess you're just the smartest person here
why would you even bother pointing out my stupidity if it's that blatant? Wouldn't anyone smarter pick up on it? You said "..never seen here before"
soooo
everyone else is smarter

Seems to me your comment is a huge waste of time then
I'm not sure intelligent people would view the wasting of time to be a productive use of intelligence so just how intelligent can you be

"it says even more about him than we all thought before"
and what would that be, John?

I'll be waiting
...and waiting
and waiting

Oct 23, 2008, 6:47pm Permalink
lazario Ladou

Ever going to try answering a question, John?
I answer yours

which point wasn't made? You don't make it clear
probably just your way of tying me up till you can unjustifiably "yawn" like your buddy Ron at my going over and over the same thing

How many people are racist
How many are prejudiced
How many have learned this from their parents
How many learn politics from their parents
How many learn religion from their parents

How many people really change?

When you're faking by 7th grade you're pretty much setting the tone for the rest of your life

How many people change in any meaningful and selfless way?
15%
8%
?
You think ALL these people make their way into the positions that help shape the country
Or is it likely that many shaping the country are those that have not changed and thus will do everything they can to keep it -the country- FROM changing for the better

It's at a point now where most of this "stuff" is a game
One side cannot play all their cards because they'll be found out
you get give and take
give a little
retain your position
take what you can take when nobody is watching
give a little back when someone does

Oct 23, 2008, 10:54pm Permalink
John Roach

On October 22nd, you said racism is not real. Then, as usual, you failed to state how you came up with that gem of wisdom in a manner that could be taken seriously. I pointed out you don’t know what your talking about and you come back with silly page breaks, talk about writing a book, etc. Nobody can follow your thoughts, if there are any. Your questions show a limited ability to carry your point. You might research the net or government statics on percentages who will admit racism to anyone but close friends. Ever hear of the “Bradley effect”. It has been talked about a lot in this election. Except in your world where you say it is not real, most racism now is low key and in remarks among small groups. The colored only schools and water fountains are gone.

True, there are groups like the KKK, Nation of Islam (the old Black Muslims), Skin Heads, Aryan Nation and others are still around, not that you seem to know. One US Senator, Robert Byrd, from West Virginia, was a member of the KKK and still gets caught saying racist things. Jesse Jackson’s racism against Jews is well documented to anyone who goes to the web.

My point is also that you have no clue if you don’t think racism is learned at home many times. Most kids have no idea why they don’t like others, they just know they do. And most seem to outgrow it when they get older, go to work and meet people. Many do not.

Your reference to a card game, “huh”? More nonsense. You really don’t answer questions; you do your regular “laz”. In fact, maybe I should call sill, useless page breaks a “laz” from now on.

Oct 24, 2008, 5:55am Permalink
lazario Ladou

My point wasn't so much that racism is not real
-I figured I wouldn't even need to make the argument-
Racism was mentioned because it shows just hot often people DO NOT change ..FROM WHAT THEIR PARENTS TAUGHT THEM

I said
Kids learn racism and hate FROM PARENTS

ALONE

Why should I believe that a 7th grader will change so dramatically "politically" -not that this is ALL about politics- when a kid learned of racism is extremely unlikely to

most racism now is low key and in remarks among small groups. The colored only schools and water fountains are gone
Good

Why don't you answer my question of whether you're racist and/or prejudiced?
I think I already know the answer but maybe you can "proove" me wrong
just don't forget your proof

My point here is that 75% -or very likely much higher than that- will say they are not prejudiced
They emphatically ARE NOT racist
the other 30% or whatever doesn't even want to answer and a small %age will be honest of themselves and admit to it

Obviously a lot of lying
"social desirability bias"

I did not previously know the term social desirability bias
But we all know what it means
I did not know of the "bradley effect" to be able to tell you what it spoke of
But I don't really learn keywords
Keywords just save time by not having to spell out but I have no problem in spelling out

I think too often people know keywords and NOT what is underneath
It becomes a handy-dandy tool to prove intelligence. All you need to know in order to sound smart is a single word as opposed to meaning

I made a distinction
Racism is not real
Racism DOES exist

I'd search it and link you to people who have put it in words you'd still probably not try to understand as I had done regarding religion
We see where that gets one
Deny Deny Deny
I could have linked to Billy Graham -not that he's jesus- but he sure as hell is more knowledgeable than most folks on the issue and since millions listen to him you'd think many people would be OK in calling him an expert or authority
Deny Deny Deny

FAKERY

clueless as to what
"playing all your cards" means

Fakery

"play your cards right and you may just get lucky"
WTF does poker have to do with me getting laid?

lol FAKERY

You make examples of Robert Byrd and Jesse Jackson as though you can't make an example of anyone you know personally socially

I ask questions more often than I give answers
I think thats more important

Oct 25, 2008, 2:48pm Permalink
John Roach

The problem is nobody can follow you. What is your point? On top of that, you ask the question of am I a racist and for proof one way or the other. “Huh”. How would any “prove” anything on a blog? Are you for real or just silly?

I you probably thought you were posing some deep questions into the mind of man. Problem is you don’t know how to make a statement, follow through with it to make you case and then resort to your distorted page breaks. Hard to take you seriously.

As for examples of people I know, what good would that do? The odds of you knowing them, or most people on this blog knowing them, are slim, so that would not be valid. For that matter, using your thought process, I could just make up a name and you would not know it. That is why I used Sen. Byrd and Mr. Jackson. The odds are in my favor people have heard of them and their racist statements can be checked on the web easily.

Oct 25, 2008, 5:14pm Permalink
lazario Ladou

I put it out there for people to think about
People have written books and books on those books and yet people are still writing the same books
Proof of how racism isn't real and yet can still exist?
Like that doesn't need a hundred pages for you to even begin giving it the time of day
Why not not write the book and just float it out there since the book isn't changing any (many) minds anyway
It's not the book nor the "proof" within it that changes minds
It's your acceptance of the possibility that leads to the searching for proof and the acceptance of that proof is you changing
First you have to accept "it's" possible before proof will do anything for you
A person wanting truth would pour over both sides weighing them
A single book is almost always biased so you'd likely have to read a number of books

Why not just float it out there so that a person can go get a book or two already published

If we all have to give proof for everything we say where does it end? How do we trust or believe ANYTHING we hear when what we mostly hear is mere sound bites?
I do agree that proof for everything would make the world better but our life is not built around proof as much as it is perception
I give my perceptions and try to make a case
Even when I have given "evidence" to be taken into account -not necessarily "proof" of truth- I get
YAWNS

What you want me to show you, I believe, is that my ideas are worth listening to
and I don't help myself ANY by giving only my thoughts
I need to not only
actually, MY thoughts are essentially worthless to you
You want other people with the same thoughts to give you evidence //that my thoughts may have something to them - you don't care about what I say at all really
you care about what "other" people have to say..
In other words you'll likely never Truly care about what "I"
(a singular person) has to say
Then you need proof that they themselves know anything
You need them to be known by others knowing something and those others known by others knowing something

I just learned these keyword terms
"social proof"
"informational social influence"
or Peer Pressure, if you ask me

Since I face a huge uphill battle in attempting to do that maybe I'm just as well off merely floating it out there
like an advertisment for you to "click on"

**I just noticed "prove" in my mind
THANKS for pointing that out to me. A simple mistake
As soon as I "noticed" it I knew to look back to see if I had misspelled it
figured it was something you'd make a big deal over
Next time instead of the "" why not just
HEY IDIOT YOU SPELLED THIS INCORRECTLY

You made some mistakes here, too.

As for what good it would do to highlight a friends -or yours- discriminatory sayings/beliefs etc
It makes it real to people ..average, common man.

Why do wish to keep racism and all those hateful things AS FAR AWAY FROM YOU AS POSSIBLE? Maybe trying to hide something? Something that if nothing else might make you LOOK guilty by association? Social Proof and it's relatives once again rears its head ...possibly

I nor you know Jesse Jackson personally
You -a person- DO KNOW people you're social with well enough to KNOW whether they're truly ____ or not
That's better "proof" than one, couple or handful of remarks that could have been taken wrongly whether "on the net" or not
Whatever happened to Don't believe everything you read?

Oct 27, 2008, 2:46am Permalink
John Roach

I was with you on your first paragraph, even the 2nd and 3rd ones. Good points. Then back to “Huh” and silly page breaks

Here is a simple question, like you asked me, “Are you, Laz, a racist?” Yes or No? Can you proof it one way or the other? How would you do that on a blog? Would anybody really care if you are or not? Since the majority of us do not know you personally, how could we take what you say as either evidence or proof?

That’s why I used those examples that can be easily verified.

Oct 27, 2008, 5:37am Permalink

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